As educators, Tu Bshvat is always a most meaningful holiday. It reminds us of the basis of the Chabad philosophy in raising/educating children. The Torah compares man to a tree in the verse, "Ki Adam Eitz Hasadeh" "For man is like a tree of the Field" (Deuteronomy 20:19)
A child in the first few years of its life resembles a young tree.
During these years, the child is molded into the person, the adult, he will eventually become. Born so innocent and pure, a child is most impressionable during its early years, and affected more by its surroundings and environment than at a later stage.
All the research in the development of children during their first few years agree- that these are the most impressionable, formative years. A time when EVERY experience, interaction and opportunity plays a huge role, in what the future child will be!
Just as with a tree, too little water may dry it out, whereas a fully grown tree would, at most, become slightly withered. The scratched seed may cause the plant to grow unevenly, while a small scratch on a fully grown tree, would not have any great impact.
How awesome is OUR TASK! To ensure we are giving each child the correct amounts of "sun & water" , "love and care"... and as Jewish children, they need "Torah & Mitzvot."
This week, the children at Gan learned a lot about how a seed grows! From holding/touching and seeing seeds, roots, plants and fully developed trees.
We enjoyed a visit from the Baron Brothers Nursery!
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| Touching roots from a plant! |
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| Seeing the progress of the same little seed...at different stages....turn into a tree! |
After her presentation, we took the seeds that she gave us, out to the planter, to plant!
preparing the soil....
Enjoy this great article on how the elements needed to raise a tree, is likened to that needed in educating a child:
By Eliezer Shemtov.
Much has been written about how best to educate a child.
What better source to look for guidance in this matter than the
Torah, whose
very definition and purpose is "teaching."
We find that the Torah likens man to "a tree in the field" (
Deuteronomy 20:19).
There are many reasons given for this linkage.
Let's explore the connection as a paradigm for education.
Educating a child is similar to cultivating a tree. In both cases, the
objective is to provide them with their needs in order to coax out the potential
that they have.
When you come to think of it, a child needs the very same things a tree does
in order to grow.
Earth. Water. Sun. Air.
Each one of these four elements represents a basic component
necessary to provide a child with what it needs in order to grow and
develop
properly.
Earth:
The more "rooted" a child is in his source of nourishment, the stronger he will grow...
Earth provides the tree with nutrients. Applied to the education of a child,
it represents both the values we wish him to absorb as well as the connectedness
we want him to feel. A child is not a mushroom; he has deep
roots that connect him to a rich source of nourishment. The stronger his
connection to this source, the stronger he will grow to be.
Earth also represents stability, immobility. A child must feel secure in
knowing that there are values and rules that are inviolable. He is not being
given disposable, fashionable, PC values which are "here today, gone
tomorrow."
In one of his very informative and enlightening articles on the topic of
education,
Rabbi Yaakov Lieder quotes a farmer who described his cattle's
behavior each time he would bring them to new grazing grounds. First they would
check the fence to make sure that there were no breaches. They would then
proceed to graze. He explained this phenomenon thus: once they saw that the
boundaries enclosing them were inviolable, they were able to go on grazing
comfortably. They were not distracted by the possibility of escape.
The application of this concept to education is very powerful. In order for
our children to be happy and successful, they must feel secure and trust the
rules and limits established by their parents. There are many decisions
regarding the wellbeing and future of a child that he or she should not have to
worry about, certainly not at this point of his or her life.
Water:
Water is crucial for a plant's growth. Amongst other things, it helps
dissolve the nutrients so that they become absorbable by the plant. Water also
assures that the roots do not dry out so that they may continue to function
optimally. The most nutrient-rich soil is useless if the plant lacks the
capacity to absorb them.
water represents humility
In the writings of
Chassidism, water represents humility.
Humility is an indispensable quality when it comes
to being open to absorbing new information.
Our children must have humility in order to learn; if they think they know it
all, they will not learn.
By the same token, we as teachers and parents must have humility in order to
teach. When teaching our children, we must humbly accept and "lower" ourselves to
their level. We must translate whatever we want to say into a language they can
comfortably understand and absorb. That is one of the reasons that wisdom is
compared to water. Water, like wisdom, finds itself most comfortable in the
lowest (i.e., most humble) recipient.
There is a story of a
chassid who came to consult with Rabbi Schneur Zalman
of Liadi about issues that he had regarding the education of his children.
As he approached Rabbi Schneur Zalman's door, he noticed through the window
that his
Rebbe was playing with his grandson. Rabbi Schneur Zalman was crawling on the
floor with his grandson on his back as if he were riding a pony.
The chassid walked away and came back a while later to speak with Rabbi Schneur Zalman.
After the chassid described his problem, Rabbi Schneur Zalman said to him: "It's a shame you
weren't here a short while ago when I was playing with my grandson. You would've
seen how it is necessary to lower yourself to the other person's level in order
to be able to communicate more successfully..."
Water also represents transparency and purity. When you want to produce
apples, for example, you need to irrigate an apple seed with water; you cannot
produce apples by irrigating orange seeds with apple juice. Pure water brings
out the particular potential of each seed. In order to bring out the particular
potential of each child, he must be provided with pure water, the pure
unadulterated truths of the Torah. He will then grow and develop in his own
particular way and eventually make his unique contribution to the Jewish people.
Sun:
A tree needs both the light and warmth radiated by the sun.
Light: We must not just tell our children what to do; we must show them the
beauty and richness of what is right. We find the expression (
Talmud, Yevamot 114a,
cited in
Rashi on
Leviticus 21:1)
lehazhir gedolim al haktanim,
We must not just tell our children what to do; we must show them the beauty and richness of what is right
which means
that the Torah warns the adults that they are responsible for their children's
behavior. The Rebbe points out that the expression
lehazhir--literally, "to warn"
or "to instruct"--can also be translated as "to make shine."
Parents must not just instruct their children
what to do; they must illuminate the world of their children. They must transmit
a shining Judaism. In the words of the Book of Proverbs,
Torah ohr,
"Torah is light." Torah teaching illuminates, shows what is
right and wrong, rather than just imposing it.
Warmth: We must provide our children with unconditional love. Our love
for them must be as
predictable as the sunrise. They must never feel that our love to them is
conditional. They must know that even when we get angry, we still love them.
This unconditional love instills in them a self-esteem and security that allows
them to face life's challenges with confidence.
Air:
"Air" implies two things: space and atmosphere.
Space: Just as a tree needs space to grow, so too does a child need his own
identity and the "space" within which to develop it.
a child needs his own identity... and the "space" within which to develop it
He needs his own, personal
quality time with his parents. He might have unique talents or hobbies that need
to be developed. Also, the child's privacy must be respected and protected. This
includes being careful not to divulge anything that was told to you by him in
confidence. The Rebbe would personally open every single letter that he received
(!) in order to protect the privacy of the sender. The Rebbe would not allow
anyone to enter that person's "space" without permission.
Atmosphere: It is very important to be aware of the environment that
surrounds your child and the "quality of air" that he breathes, in the home as
well as outside it. What does your child see at home? Does he see mutual respect
and love between his parents? Does he see them happy and secure with who they
are and what they are doing? What does he see his parents do? What does he hear
them say (out of earshot, supposedly)? Who are his friends? What do they talk
about in their homes? What do they talk about during recess? What are their
attitudes?
The atmosphere is determined not so much by what is said as by what is done.
I remember once talking to a couple who explained that they couldn't come to shul on
Friday evenings because "we have a weekly bridge game with friends." A while
later they complained to me about the fact that their son was doing something
that they had taught him not to do. "We told him countless times that such
behavior would be unacceptable to us. How can he just turn his back on the
education we gave him?" they wondered.
Being a gardener is a full time job
"He is not ignoring you at all," I replied. "You were very successful in your
education. You taught him that one does what one wants and not necessarily what
one should... The fact that what he wants differs from what you want is just a
detail. The main lesson was well learned by him."
What your child "breathes in" from the atmosphere in which he grows is more
significant than what he hears.
Most important of all is to remember that being a parent/gardener is a full
time job. We must be consistent and persistent in tending our gardens and
constantly on the lookout for problems that might arise and "nip them in the
bud" before they grow out of control.
Remember: Trees never complain. Likewise, children oftentimes do not
adequately express what they need when they need it. They often suffer in
silence. It's our job to tend to the precious seedling that
has been placed in
our care.
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